Proverbs 31 OBS: Hey Single Ladies! Men aren't the Enemy!

 Quote from The Husband Project:

It’s funny… with just a little tender loving care, men will generally respond by doing their very best to meet our needs. If we take our attention off what he’s not doing right, and put our attention back where it belongs—on our own behavior—then we will find that the rest takes care of itself.

Former Secretary of State Colin Powell and wife Alma Celebrating their Anniversary!

I lurk around in different relationship threads on Social media and message boards trying to gauge some of the issues out in the dating world and it seems that men and women have become enemies.

People refuse to believe that people can get married and STAY married or even produce fruitful marriages. This is one of the reasons they want to see young couples succumb to the tabloid drama and garbage of reality television!

It's how you see yourself.....

There's always threads about how men these days don't do this and that or women ain't this or that. It's all one big battle of the sexes. However when digging deeper it has less to do with the opposite sex and more to do with how people see themselves and the world.

If you see men as the enemy because they are lazy, liars, womanizers, and cheaters then that is how you will act.  You will always be ready for a fight and it will never be about giving tender loving care. It will always be about self preservation.

Now of course the bars have been lowered for men when it comes to maturity and manhood. These days men are encouraged to take an extended adolescence sometimes into their 30’s and 40’s but

I'm not talking about them.

Steph and Ayesha Curry at the White House

I'm talking about mature men who are in search of nature life partners. They are not the enemy. They are our allies and partners in life and as the passage above says, if men know that you're behind them and you're the helpmeet, then they will respond accordingly. The great husbands I know (their wives confirm it) look to fulfill their wife and family needs. They want to do it because they love their families and they know they have someone cheering them on. If you're always looking for a fight or berating your husband I can't see why he would want to do anything for you!

So again the focus goes back on our own behavior.