Single Journey: Finally. A (handsome) Man (who married a HOT woman) telling MEN to wait
Friends, I am officially a supporter of Devon Franklin.
He has done what I have been screaming forever for someone to do. He is an attractive man (universally attractive) who married a beautiful woman....AND they waited
Why does this matter?
BECAUSE it dispels all of the notions that an attractive man cannot wait and if he does, then he will end up marrying Freda Frumpy. That's not encouraging nor inspiring. Meagan and Devon, Russell and Ciara have proved that couples can be hot, passionate, and sexually attractive to one another AND others and still wait.
But isn't that being superficial and shallow?
Yes. I am not denying it but that's a factor for many people deciding NOT to wait. The people we often see in Christian Circles that wait either have zero chemistry and it shows or they're just not an attractive couple furthering the stereotypes that sexually attractive men (and women) cannot wait and that he/she is destined to marry Freda or Fred Frumpy.
People that practice The Wait need to be shown that there is a benefit to this and it's not just for people with low confidence or low self esteem.
Now that I have pissed a lot of people off, I am going to thank Devon for FINALLY saying it:
Everyone tells men their success has to do with their titles, their accomplishments, their income, and how many women they're smashing. They don't talk about the success of the inner man and why that matters more than anything.
They often find this out too late when they are living an empty life OR when it all falls down.
One of my biggest gripes are that people (ESPECIALLY MEN) are not being given good reasons and benefits of why they should wait. The chapter on Why Men Should Wait was powerful and as we can see Devon is enjoying the fruits of his obedience.
So I am thankful for Devon. I am thankful that he is taking the time to TEACH men WHY they should wait and I'm thankful women are seeing that it is possible for a man to wait.
It's a discipline to and he gives wise words and tips for this season.
Great Job Devon and I'm glad you were obedient to God!
He has done what I have been screaming forever for someone to do. He is an attractive man (universally attractive) who married a beautiful woman....AND they waited
BECAUSE it dispels all of the notions that an attractive man cannot wait and if he does, then he will end up marrying Freda Frumpy. That's not encouraging nor inspiring. Meagan and Devon, Russell and Ciara have proved that couples can be hot, passionate, and sexually attractive to one another AND others and still wait.
But isn't that being superficial and shallow?
Yes. I am not denying it but that's a factor for many people deciding NOT to wait. The people we often see in Christian Circles that wait either have zero chemistry and it shows or they're just not an attractive couple furthering the stereotypes that sexually attractive men (and women) cannot wait and that he/she is destined to marry Freda or Fred Frumpy.
People that practice The Wait need to be shown that there is a benefit to this and it's not just for people with low confidence or low self esteem.
Now that I have pissed a lot of people off, I am going to thank Devon for FINALLY saying it:
Men CAN and SHOULD Wait.
Why should Men Wait: True Success
Society tells men that their success is built on what Devon Calls The List
- Wealth
- Power
- Position
- A hot Car
- Great Clothes
- A huge Crib
- Big Toys
- A beautiful, sexy woman on your arm
As Devon points out, if men have these things then the world thinks they have made it. How many men spend their entire lives trying to pursue these things and end up losing their souls in the process. What shall it profit for a man to gain the whole world and lose his soul? They lose their purpose, their mission, the original intent that God had for their lives, and their peace. It simply isn't worth it yet who is telling them that?
Everyone tells men their success has to do with their titles, their accomplishments, their income, and how many women they're smashing. They don't talk about the success of the inner man and why that matters more than anything.
They often find this out too late when they are living an empty life OR when it all falls down.
What is real success?
Devon said:Success isn't just professional or sexual, however, but moral, personal, and spiritual. If you fail at these things, hey become liabilities that will derail everything you aspire to.
How many men have been DESTROYED because they are unsuccessful morally, personally, and spiritually? The news and jails are filled with them.
We need men like Devon to teach other men this truth. We need men like Devon to teach women this truth. He said something that hit me to my core.
There is no list, no catalog of external achievements, that will make a man more of a man.
I bet if we told more men this truth, then their burdens would be lifted. They no longer need to pursue the pointless and material but pursue good character and development as a man.
The Path of Destruction
Devon also says an obsession with sex, wealth, and power diminishes men. I agree and it also sets them up for trouble later on down the line for the empty self and path of destruction but people don't like to address that.
The man who recklessly gives himself over to his sex drives denies and distances himself from his divine nature. He courts chaos, drama, legal troubles, illegitimate children - everything this side of the plagues that Moses warned Pharoah about in Exodus. Worst of all he becomes manipulative and callous, willing to do or say anything to get a woman into bed. He becomes addicted not just to the physical feeling of sex but also to the psychology of how sex makes him feel -- and the game he must play to produce this feeling.
One of my biggest gripes are that people (ESPECIALLY MEN) are not being given good reasons and benefits of why they should wait. The chapter on Why Men Should Wait was powerful and as we can see Devon is enjoying the fruits of his obedience.
So I am thankful for Devon. I am thankful that he is taking the time to TEACH men WHY they should wait and I'm thankful women are seeing that it is possible for a man to wait.
It's a discipline to and he gives wise words and tips for this season.
Great Job Devon and I'm glad you were obedient to God!
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